Living with roommates can be amazing- shared dinners, deep talks, spontaneous laughs. But let’s be real: it can also be challenging. Different habits, expectations, and lifestyles in a shared space can lead to tension. And that’s totally normal.
Here are some helpful tips to handle roommate conflicts before they turn into big dramas:
1. Talk Early – Not after you’ve exploded
If something bothers you, don’t let it build up. Address it calmly and early. A simple “Hey, can we talk about something?” often opens the door to a more relaxed conversation.
2. Use “I” statements
Instead of blaming (“You never do the dishes!”), try saying how you feel:
“I feel frustrated when the dishes pile up, can we find a solution together?”
This keeps the conversation less defensive.
3. Assume good intentions
Most people don’t want to be bad roommates – they might just not realize their behavior is affecting you. A little benefit of the doubt goes a long way.
4. Agree on clear rules
Discuss things like cleaning, guests, noise, and shared costs early on. Even if it feels awkward at first, having clear agreements can prevent future stress.
5. Take space if you need it
A short walk, headphones on, or spending time in a different room can help everyone cool down if things get tense.
6. Ask for support
If you really can’t resolve the conflict, you don’t have to do it alone. Many universities have mediation services, student support, or someone you can talk to.
Living together means learning together. Conflict doesn’t mean failure, it’s part of figuring things out. With some communication and kindness, you’ll likely come out stronger (and maybe even closer).
Your SLR host Emma 😊
Source: https://www.sparwelt.de/magazin/menschen/wg-leben-probleme-loesen
